May 10, 2009

The Source

"Destitute pea pickers living in tent in migrant camp. Mother of seven children. Age thirty-two."
Nipomo, California - February 1936
Photograph by Dorothea Lange




Grown don't mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What's that suppose to mean? In my heart it don't mean a thing.
~Toni Morrison, Beloved, 1987


This quote makes me think of my mom. She always says how I am forever her baby. My Mother is the woman I admire more than anyone I know. She is beautiful inside an out, she means the world to me. She is now my son's Grandmother, and it has been a healing rebirth for her. Her name is Emi, short for Emilia. She is about 5’3 with short silver hair, big brown eyes and an intoxicating laugh. She has olive skin that tans quickly and smells like in my childhood. I like it when people say I look like her, although I know I am more similar to my father. Mamma is my best friend, source of guidance and comfort, and the strongest woman I have ever known. There are so many reasons why I admire her that I could go on for days talking about her. Those of you who have been snacking here for a while, know that I have posted about my mother here. The episode that follows is one of the million similar events experienced with my mamma. I wish to share it here with you because it also portrays a beautiful moment of my early youth. A time before my own motherhood.


Night fishing excursions in Positano on the Amalfi coast always meant 3 am wake up calls and bulky wool sweaters in the middle of summer. My mother would drag me out of bed with the promise of an exciting childhood experience, and indeed it always turned out to be just that. On one particularly tense night, the four expert fishermen occupying the boat – who would usually welcome us women on their vessel with a silent nod (females are supposed to bring bad fishing luck) – were oddly silent, casting sideways glances. As I squirmed in my stiff and itchy wool blue pullover, the engines roaring beneath us, I noticed one of them looking up at the sky and mumbling as the fishing boat set out to sea in the pitch black of the night. Something to do with foul weather coming in. Not the best way to begin.

We navigated for at least one hour, neither east nor west, just plain out in the middle of the dark Mediterranean waters before us. Our hair blowing tangled in the black air and a distant look in our eyes, as the town lights behind us became few indistinct flickering pinholes, far far away.
Once we reached the designated spot, the anchor splashed into the deep and engines were turned off, the only sound was that of the swaying water, its tiny waves lapping against the walls of the boat. The sky was incredibly starry and the salty breeze made my nostrils tickle. The stillness and quiet lasted only a brief moment.

As the frenzy of preparation and excitement grew each minute, my mother and I sat nestled in a corner watching the angling miracle from a secure vantage point. With slow repetitive movements, the men began pulling up the trawl line from the crow’s nest. It came up virtually empty. Only a dozen small silvery fish and a lot of seaweed caught in the mesh netting. The mood was not good. The engines started again and we moved off to a second further location where a flag planted on a buoy signaled the presence of a palamito top line. As the men began to harvest the sea, my mother and I looked at each other and simultaneously shared the same thought. We’re never getting invited on board this peschereccio again.
The first line came up empty… the second: nothing, as did the third. We began to worry that our feminine presence indeed impaired the expedition. The men were hissing and panting as they hauled up arm lengths of glistening nylon line. Their excitement, effort and expectations dulling as each bait came up prize-less.

And then suddenly, the miracle happened. A single mute signal and the men alerted their senses. A different weight in the lifting was perceived and the word uttered was a serious, hushed “Ecco.” As each dropper surfaced with a precious silvery wiggling creature hooked to it, the men grew more vocal. Their usually comprehensible Neapolitan dialect became an obscure mix of Arabic, Saracen and Testosterone in loud manly exclamations we failed to understand. Wet, chilled and slippery calloused hands chaffed by the wind and cut by the nylon line heaved up disproportionate weights. Scales and gills glistening in the moonlight below us, we sat in awe.

The men pulled and pulled retrieving the booty with glazed eyes and deep incantations aboard our ship. Each catch was welcomed with a roar of pleasure and we became intoxicated with the spreading euphoria and pitched in with applause and squeals of joy. Gigantic groupers with bulging eyes surfaced from the deep, silvery sea bass behemoths, tentacular octopi, slithering conger eels, a 50-pound bluefin tuna… one after the other the sea creatures appeared and progressively crowded the boat floor darting in a wash of salt water, seaweed and blood. The air around the vessel was riddled with squawking gulls and the water surrounding us, a wriggly pool of silvery anchovies and sardines waiting for delicious bait debris.

Dawn escorted us back to shore, exhausted and elated. Docking the fishing boat and landing our crates full of sea treasures, I felt alive and excited. The exhilaration of the catch had me on a natural high for days.
I have returned many times on that same boat, the old San Giovanni, in the heart of darkness, but never was the event as miraculous as that 1978 mid-August night.



Happy Mother's Day to all the brave, wise, young, senior, zany, single, married, gay/lesbian, lonely, in a relationship, focused, forgetful, busy, lazy, accomplished, mindless, slender, overweight, working, jobless, underpayed, overworked, ill, healthy, laughing, sad, obstinate, flexible, indigent, wealthy, rational, crazy, worried, relaxed, stable, unbalanced, playful, intellectual, bookworm, outdoorsy, pregnant, menopausal, sophisticated, simple, intuitive, caring, devoted, sacrificing, endurably unselfish, compassionate, forgiving, protective, affectionate, superhuman, loving mothers of this world.

21 comments:

  1. Ah! Lovely lola, what a great tale! Wishing you a beautiful Mother's Day
    with your special little boyfriend.

    Enjoy your day.xx♥

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  2. I love your story, it's so richly told and the suspense of waiting for the catch reminds me of my own childhood when I went fishing with my father!

    Have a wonderful Mother's day.

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  3. A wonderful post Lola, made me smile and fill with tears at the same time.
    I hope you have a wonderful day with your Mamma and your adored little boy.
    We must be the only country that celebrated Mothers Day back in March.
    xx

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  4. lovely post and wonderful story. happy mothers day!

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  5. Gorgeous. And how the men's language changed with the course of their moon, oh boy, do you know how that affected me? Perfectly put. Really. That one line was enough for me to feed off of for a long long time. Brilliant piece.

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  6. Beautiful--story, photo, words, thoughts. What an interesting life you've had, friend.

    xo

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  7. A picture painted by a master Lola.
    Thank you.
    BTW I could only cross off about six of the words listed to describe us mothers.
    We are a complex bunch.
    Happy Mother's Day to you and to your mother.

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  8. Ditto. I had no idea you had so many adventures out at sea. The picture of you and your mamma is most beautiful. Happy Day to both of you.

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  9. Oh Lola, you have amazed and touched me again. Thank you for sharing such a lovely story, your Mamma is a treasure.I say the same thing to my kids.Always my baby.
    Your photos you chose are perfection. The top one is one of my favorite ever photos and then the one of you and your Mamma,priceless. I'm envious you have such a perfect picture.
    Happy Mother'sDay to you and your Mamma.(thank you for the text sweetheart).
    Oh, I am alot of those things on your list!!
    xoxoxo♥ lori

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  10. Thank you for sharing this family story, as usual, so perfectly written I could see it like a movie.
    Buona festa della Mamma, a te, a tua mamma, alla mia e a tutte le mamme del mondo!

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  12. Happy Mothers Day Lola!! May you have a wonderful day today. This story is a great one, plus a fishing experience to remember forever! You are a remarkable person, Grazie :)

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  13. Thank you all for your wonderful comments!

    Natsy - My childhood was intense. Under every point of view!
    Nicky - Thank you very much, I greatly appreciate it.
    Mandy - I'm happy you enjoyed reading and getting to know me a little better. When in March was your mother's day?
    Brian - Thnak you, daddy!
    Erin - Kudos, coming from you, are too much to receive without trembling.
    Sallymandy - Thnak you, amica (friend). Women's lives rarely aren't.
    Lori E - We are a complex SUPERHUMAN bunch. We can stretch to unbelievable extents.
    Rosaria - Felice Festa della Mamma, my darling friend. Ciao
    Lori ann - Me too, I respond to many of those adjectives!
    Valeria - Son tutte belle le mamme del mondo! Auguri bella
    Chuck - I am touched, thank you.

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  14. And THANK you too, typing dislexia.

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  15. Mama and daughter are absolutely gorgeous. Wow you are both beauties.

    I love the story and I really didn't think there was going to be any fish in the 4th net.

    Happy Mother's Day.

    Wonderful post.

    Love Renee xoxo

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  16. What a comforting and warm recollection... I felt like I was there! This reminded me so much of my grandmother, Zelinda Tega. She is gone, but so much like your mother- wow... Happy Mothers Day to you, my friend ;-)

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  17. Ciao Lola! Your writing, always beautiful and inspiring, is just incredible in this post. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story about you and your mother. Yes, funny we did both post about Positano indirectly yesterday! That picture of you and your mother captures so much emotion - two very beautiful women! I hope you both had a very special Mother's Day!

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  18. Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful!

    (on a side note: my word verification begins with the letters c o d and end in s h. I read that as cod fish!)

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  19. I'm glad you enjoyed this post, thank you for your loving comments:

    Renee - Thank you, my darling friend. Miracles happen all the time.
    LaDue - These we speak of are very special ladies.
    Laura - It was very special! Thank you
    Breeze - Grazie!
    Immersion - Blogger must definitely be reading what we write...
    Saretta - Thank YOU!

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